“I help gifted ‘misfits’ unlock their superpowers” – Dr. J.J. Kelly
The world isn’t the same as it was 25 years ago. Recently, the world isn’t the same as it was last year or even last month. More and more people are feeling lost and depressed during these uncertain times. Healing professionals are looking for ways to foster hope and healing when things feel so out of control.
Author of the Amazon best-seller “Holy Sh*t, My Kid is Cutting!”, Dr. J.J. Kelly, is recognized for her mentorship program, a paradigm shift from the current mental health system. Her vision is global healing by teaching people the skills to genuinely like themselves.
Rooted in Oakland, California, infused with punk and hip-hop, Dr. Kelly advocates that joy is everyone’s right regardless of what society deems unfit, unwell, or unpopular.
Dr. J.J. Kelly, how do you define yourself and what you do?
“I am a Licensed Clinical Psychologist & Emotional Intelligence Expert. I am the Punk Rock Doc. I am CEO & Founder of UnorthoDocs, Inc., and my company offers to coach and consulting as an alternative to traditional psychotherapy and the current mental health system. We focus on emotional intelligence skills coaching, peer-coaching, mentorship, community outreach, laughter & love.”
Have you seen a higher incidence of depression these days?
“The simple answer is yes. People are deeply unhappy right now. The complexity lies in the basis of that unhappiness. What is the base? Fear. There are many unknowns in our daily life right now. What I’ve learned from over 15+ years is we have not been taught the skills to manage fear effectively. With no tools to combat the fear and hopelessness, we will find ways to avoid or escape with controlling behaviors.
This is a form of self-medication, and while it can feel like it works on that day, it is short-lived relief. Why? When fear doesn’t get addressed and managed at its root or core, we will spiral into repetitive behaviors of avoidance (self-medication) that eventually leads to ‘anxiety burnout’ that causes unhappiness. People are not taught the coping skills that would improve their emotional intelligence and increase their quality of life and their capacity to experience joy. I intend to change that. Finding authentic and creative ways to connect with others is the road to healing”.
What would message would you share with artists and creative professionals?
“I work with a lot of creative people – many of whom have spent their lives ‘not fitting in,’ being judged for being ‘different’ or ‘weird’ or whatever… That’s why my next book is for “Gifted ‘Misfits'” – a name we’ve come to embrace at UnorthoDocs, Inc. Visual artists, painters, musicians, spoken word performers, writers, dancers, poets – even chefs, and filmmakers, and clothing designers. Anytime you have the courage in your heart to ‘make’ something new and put it out into the world, you face the vulnerability of rejection. That’s brave enough!…now you add the pervasive uncertainty that this pandemic has brought to our daily lives – and fear has just skyrocketed”.
“Creative people: we have always been on the fringes of society, so why fight that. Why not embrace that we’re different and learn to accept ourselves – flaws and all? Why not heal the long-held lie that society has always told us: that we’re all supposed to be the same? We’re not! If we learn the emotional intelligence skills to manage emotions and communicate with others effectively, then the truth can come out: We’re all similar AND different, and when we’ve accepted ourselves and even learned to LIKE ourselves and know what our values are and our behaviors MATCH our values, then we gain a healthy respect for ourselves and confidence that nothing and no one can taint or take away.
We gain a fortitude INside ourselves that is independent of what’s OUTside of us. The healing starts within. Remember how brave you are. It is revolutionary to like yourself…and that absolutely CAN be taught”.